Sunday 29 November 2009
I was astonished at the joy I derived from the art galleries we visited. Soon after my return, I saw the Cubbington exhibition with my sister, and that made me really happy too! As a not-particularly-visual person, I would have thought I’d need to go to more concerts in order to have a good time. The fact that I remembered that Manet asparagus for 33 years should have tipped me off.
(Asparagus tips!)
Perhaps the scooter helped. I was able to sit down while contemplating paintings. (I don’t remember where – or, indeed, why! – I read, while H and I were in Paris, instructions for enjoying art galleries. Could have been a Lonely Planet guide, could have been a book from Rosemary and Sybil’s extensive library. Anyway, it said that galleries were tiring and that you shouldn’t rush about: you should pick something you like and sit down in front of it and have a good look at it. In the scooter, I was ideally placed to do this!) I saw a fair few galleries while standing up, though. No, I have to conclude, it is just a lovely feeling being in an art gallery.
In general, the scooter was tremendous fun, and enabled me to keep up with Helen and Chloe as they rushed about the countryside, on foot or on bikes. I loved:
- being able to keep up
- being outdoors so much (the weather also came into that)
- being able to bring essentials such as handbags and coats and water bottles and hats without having to carry them and hurt my arms
- having somewhere to sit, wherever we were
- going fast (except when I crashed )
I won’t be getting one here, however, until I absolutely must. The temptation never to walk again would be too strong. Walking continues to be awful – painful and difficult, with numb bits having to be willed and forced. I resent having to think about and plan every step I take. It’s supposed to get easier the more I do it, but I don’t find this to be the case at all. It stays painful and difficult and, when I’m tired, becomes almost impossible. So I will keep walking lest it becomes so.
I loved Denmark to such an extent that I’m now learning Danish and trying to figure out how I can go again. I have a vision of myself staying at the Danhostel in Ribe and wandering around there, looking at the wetlands, and going to the Viking Centre that we missed, and studying every inch of the town. And speaking Danish. 🙂
When I think about going again (which definitely wasn’t meant to happen, because of the expense) I realise how much I owe to Helen and Chloe. They did all the lifting and carrying, and most of the domestic work. Chloe helped look after “Gwandma”, saving me from many tight spots with the scooter, and generally rallying round. Helen anticipated and planned and organised and calmed and accompanied and shared. Without all this help, none of it would have been possible.
I knew I couldn’t travel unassisted, but I’m a bit overwhelmed at the extent of assistance I need.
The expectation that, if you’re out and about, you can do everything everyone else can do – even down to producing your passport quickly – is a great pressure. Because I can’t. I can’t even turn it to the right page in what anyone considers to be a reasonable time, to judge by the foot-tapping and finger-drumming.
Not being able to carry stuff is a huge problem. Not being able to walk miles and miles and miles carrying stuff in airports is a problem that can be overcome by requesting a wheelchair, but it’s not without hitches. Being wheeled through airports on the way, when I had two carry-on bags, I was obliged to transport both on my lap. I had to stretch my arms up and over them so they didn’t fall off, and hang on tight. It hurt at the time, and it hurt and impaired me for days afterwards. Schiphol was the only airport that approached a solution: staff-driven electric cars with room for luggage. Even then, you got to a point eventually where the car couldn’t go, and it was back to being smothered in bags.
It’s been suggested to me that, for next time, I could find a travelling companion. It’d have to be someone pretty saintly, and I’d probably have to subsidise them.
Nevertheless I hope to see Denmark again, the country where even the road signs are elegant!
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It was excellent being away from all my Canberra responsibilities. Apart from one bad moment when I heard that C*mc*re had sent a letter overruling (yet again) one of their own determinations (to my detriment, as always) I didn’t think about clerical tasks. The time I spent getting organised for the trip paid off. All the bills that allow direct debit are now being directly debited.
I expected that a few things would go wrong: the fridge is due to blow up, and the automatic garage door, but they haven’t done so yet. The arrangements I thought I’d made about lawnmowing fell through, but that was soon fixed. For 2.5 months I had no correspondence to deal with – what a treat! In between minding the cats, who managed to stay out of trouble, Dac opened all the mail and decided whether I needed to know about it. Mostly I didn’t. There was a heap of stuff to go through when I got back, but I was able to rip most of it up and put it in the recycling. I enjoyed that.
My email was calmer than it’s been in years. Before I went away, I unsubscribed from everything I could think of. It continues calm because I haven’t resubscribed, and don’t intend to.
I adored not cooking. I hope I did enough peeling and chopping (and buying of takeaway) to cover my irresponsibility. There were things I did while I was away that are really hard for me to do, and that I’m relieved I no longer have to do, but I was spared many other tasks. Swings and roundabouts. Chloe did a lot more of the washing than I did! I didn’t have to go grocery shopping, although I often went along and carried stuff home on the scooter. A couple of times, I walked down to the corner shop for emergency groceries. I was happy never having to decide what the meals would be.
There were some guilt-inducing aspects to being so idle when H & C were almost out of their minds with busyness. I would have liked to be able to help more. They would have liked, they said, for me to stop doing things and have a rest. Just do what I liked. Paint some pictures. I did no painting while I was over there, but I wrote most of this diary, and I feel quite proud of that. It’s the first large-scale writing project I have ever undertaken and finished, and it took being away from home to do it.
It’s taken two months to finish the last month of the story, now that I’m back in my routine.
While I was away, although I swam regularly and did my hydrotherapy exercises, I kept forgetting my strengthening exercises. H & C were always asleep when I woke up, so I’d creep downstairs and answer my email and write this travel diary. When they came down, I didn’t want to drag myself back up to my room and be out of circulation. This act of omission doesn’t seem to have done me any irreparable harm, but then I was being protected from so many tasks, including driving. Now I’m back to doing everything under the sun. I think the exercises make me more conscious of how I am carrying myself, so I’m back doing them at the start of every day.
Swimming takes out three half-days; clogging class takes out another. I’ve decided to get rid of my hated exercise bike and substitute 30 minutes’ clogging practice instead – it’s working, and selling the bike is on my famous list. The rest of my time disappears. Some of it is spent happily with friends, and at concerts, and learning Danish, but quite a bit of it is frittered away on what Helen calls “boomerang errands”. Modern life, eh?

Clogging, second term 2009
Of course there were some downsides and difficulties while I was away. I’ve said more than enough about them. My overwhelming feelings about the trip are exhilaration and gratitude. I’ve seen so much that has made me happy. So many fascinating places and works of art. Paris again, at last! Denmark! I’ve shared life with Helen and Chloe, and can see them in context in my mind’s eye. Strangers have been kind and helpful; friends and family have been amazing. My encounters with old friends in Britain will live on in my heart. What wonderful memories!

The little houses
The little Delft houses remind me that I have Dad to thank for financing the trip. I think he would have approved. Then there are Chloe’s remarkable photos, and this diary, now finished.

























































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